An Excuse for Hot Chocolate

Lewy has been with us most of the day. My poor husband decided not to go to the Northwestern football game. He couldn’t take cold weather combined with a case of Lewy. It was a good thing for this decision because Lewy only got worse as the day progressed.

He sat in his Lewy trance for most of the day. I still cringe when I see this behavior, but I worry of that someday when I will not even notice? I just sat next to him for hours and tried to keep him from falling from the couch. The woman who cleans our house was surprised, no shocked, to see his condition. Even though many people have heard of Bob’s condition, it really takes seeing Lewy in action to understand the depth of Lewy’s hold on my Bob.

We went for a car ride just to get out and I must have asked him 3,000 times how he was doing. I felt like I had gone back in time to when I asked Stephanie if she was cold. Instead of this being the mother thing to say when winter strikes, it is the spouse thing to say when Lewy strikes. I suppose it is a prime example of demonstrating my love for my family.

I find that I want to be with him. At the start of Lewy, he really wanted me next to him. Even an aisle or two at Target was enough to send him into a frenzy. Now I am the panicked shopper. When we are home together, which is 95% of the time, I find myself needing to be in the same room as him. I often just stare at him as he combats his hallucinations, inwardly sobbing for this dreadful disease. It is slowly stealing my husband and there is nothing that I can do.

I’m blessed that we are able to be together. We are good for each other even after all of these years. There’s a certain comfort to huddle down on the couch with my hubby as we grasp big mugs of steaming hot chocolate. Ahhhh! Life is good!

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         It gives me a good excuse to sip hot chocolate and forget about the calories that are being placed on my thighs. Life is good.

Happy Thanksgiving

We made the drive to my daughter’s and are anxiously waiting tomorrow, the day of gluttony and ease. She’ll have fifteen gathered around the table, all letting out their waistbands. One of the reasons that my daughter loves Thanksgiving so is that it is time to gather with friends and family and contemplate our many blessings. There is no panic if you have the right gift; instead you come together throughout a relaxing day stuffed with traditions.

We’ll stay here throughout Black Friday morning. Ever since Stephanie was behind the cash register during this unique holiday, she has wanted to experience the frenzy. In the past, she has gone out with my husband for a midnight run through one or two locations. The she wakes me while the skies are still dark to hit some of the biggest deals. Stephanie always studies the newspaper ads and determines the best route. The only requirement is that we need to purchase one gift for ourselves during this day of greed.

We have lots of memories of times we have captured deals and laughed our way through the crowds. My body no longer moves with the ease of a talented shopper, but I will do my best to keep up.

Stephanie and her family will head for a weekend with Chris’ family for the holiday weekend in the early afternoon. We’ll head back home and ease our bones after being loving grandparents and shoppers. Perhaps we might even try to make our home look more festive for the next major holiday.

So special Thanksgiving wishes to all of you who take time to read my musings. I’m blessed to have so many people care about our limited adventures and journeys into medical nightmares. God bless each of you. May your turkeys be moist and desserts be scrumptious. Let your life be good.

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      I just need to slow my days and look around to find that I’m surrounded with God’s blessings.

Oh – Teddy guessed that it would take five minutes to cook the turkey. The oven will be set at one degree. I’m glad he is not the chef!

Magical Moments

We had a wonderful weekend, as close to perfection as possible. Stephanie, et al, came to town, so that always cheers me up. My aches and pains are cushioned with each little grin I receive from the grandsons. Teddy tells his own version of jokes that only grandmothers can love. Ollie just has to be Ollie. There’s such a natural joy when God places children in my presence. I love all their antics and giggles. Life is good.

Our niece got married this weekend; so much of our time was devoted to family near and far. The precious grandsons danced until 11 and could have kept on going, but the adults with them were ready for bed. There was a photo booth at the reception, which I have heard is the latest craze. It was more than that. You should see our pictures complete with hats, boas, and amazing hats. I got a chance to spend time with another niece who lives out of state and has grown up without me getting to know her. We did our best to make up for that and I am thrilled that we did. Life is good.

Bob and I also got to get our pictures taken with Stephanie, Christopher and the boys. The photographer was able to capture all of us with eyes open and smiles wide. I so much wanted to get some nice pictures. We have more than enough stuff, and I have definitely learned that life can change at a moment’s notice. With Lewy in the house, I needed a nice shot of just Bob and I also. Last year’s picture lacked - I’ll leave it at that. I am so ecstatic with the results and even ordered photo Christmas cards. Life is good.

We ended the weekend with time together in worship and then a trek into the city for the Barnum and Bailey circus. I don’t know who had the best time. Ollie loved all the animals: elephants, lions, dogs, horses, tigers, leopards, cats and more. Loud motorcycles kept our interest. Teddy told us afterwards that Stephanie and I could take the positions of those lithe ladies swinging in the sky. Take a moment and picture that. Life is good since I don’t do that for a profession.

I talked with my dental hygienist this afternoon about the new presence of Lewy in the house. I realized that in many ways, we are lucky to have this diagnosis. I have really grasped the ecstasy in each good minute. I’m not sure when Lewy will grab even more from my home, so I beg God for the best of each moment. This weekend was jam packed with those miracle minutes. Life is good!

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          I diagnose my days to find all those miracle minutes packed in my life. Life is good.

Blub, Blub, Blub

I’m thankful for so many things in my life that blessings overflow from my heart. My challenge was to daily include something ordinary that helps make my life special.

So . . .

I’m thankful for all of our fish tanks. We have multiple aquariums whose lights eerily shine from our home at night. All five are salt-water tanks filled with all sorts of creatures and fish, each with their own personalities. We can point out ones that are bashful, friendly, arrogant and more. The sizes and colors amaze the viewers.

We got our first tank back in 2007, right before Bob’s infamous fall. I know that when he had to do his less-than-fun PT exercises, he did them in front of the tanks to help keep mind over matter. We have my tank up in our bedroom. When I need to stretch out with a migraine or bothersome back, the tanks help calm the jittery nerves.

We love to show them off. People are amazed at all of the living things within the tanks. Our neighbor kids frequently come knocking at the door, begging to feed the fish. Little Ollie would love to provide a feast, so we have to hide the containers before food is flooding the tanks.

Lewy comes with more frenzy when Bob is worried and anxious. Hopefully these tanks can help calm him, which surely beats lots of colorful pills that put all sort of chemicals inside him. We all need some serenity, but Bob requires it in a totally different manner.

So, thanks God for our tanks. They help bring the serenity that we so strive for. We see some of the amazing creatures that inhabit this planet. We can look all around us and say, Life is good.

God Uses My Blog to Remind Me that Life is Good

       You don’t need a snorkel and expensive plane tickets to see the wonders of the sea. Wow! Life is good.

A First

We went out to dinner last night at a local Italian restaurant that is one of our favorites. Joining us was Bob’s entire family, all in town for our niece’s wedding. We haven’t seen Bob’s sister’s family for quite some time. This was the first time in too long that all the siblings were together. What a wonderful time to celebrate.

Toward the end of dinner, Lewy came to visit bringing with plenty of animal hallucinations. Bob stiffened in fear. He soon became rigid and unresponsive. I am used to these behaviors by now and know just to quietly whisper in his ear. This had always worked in the past to calm him. Last night was different.

He slowly was able to talk and frantically said that “they” were coming to get him. His fear was genuine. Then he looked at me and asked, “Who are you?” That’s a first and a first that I have been dreading since getting this diagnosis. I told him that I was his wife, but that did little to calm his agitation. There was no recognition in his face. I kept on talking; thank God for my gift of gab. He slowly slid back to reality.

After this, he was very tired and with a headache. That’s what happens after Lewy barges into our lives.  Bob was in a big hurry to leave and we quickly gathered our things. We soon were home and settled on our couch while the rest of his family went to their own homes or hotels.

He didn’t know who I was. A cold dagger stabbed my heart but I continued on as if not wounded. Those few minutes marked another milestone on the Lewy highway. There is an emptiness that I feel. I surprisingly didn’t cry or lock myself into seclusion for I was well aware that his recognition of me would not be consistent. It is another good-bye that caregivers for Lewy patients all have to face, but today I still feel the echo in my soul. Another part of Bob has been chipped away. I see it drifting off and there is not one thing that I can do to rescue it. Life goes on.

Yet life is good. This morning, Bob knew my darling face and our lives kept on going. Our home is secure and our daughter still loves us. My marriage to Bob is strong in part due to our stalwart faith in God. We have many blessings. A few minutes in an Italian restaurant can’t take that away. Life is good. I will make it so.

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      I am forced to examine my life and remember all the wonderful blessings that continually fill each day. Life is good!

A Few More Know

Yesterday, I was the speaker for our continuing education for Stephen Ministers.

The topic was Lewy Bodies Dementia, the disease that haunts my husband’s soul. I thought it appropriate since other members of our congregation also have different sorts of dementia and someday those care givers may want a Stephen Minister. I also wanted to expand the personal knowledge of the group. Additional awareness is needed throughout our nation. Finally, I wanted to explain Bob’s condition so others might better understand his Lewy behaviors.

I didn’t cry. I’m blessed with the tendency to blubber away whether happy or sad. Just toss me a box of tissues before I go to a movie or say good-bye to loved ones. I’ve always had this characteristic and have sobbed my way through life. I expected blubbering, but my body held out. The only other time I didn’t cry when I expected to do so was when I woke up my daughter to tell her my mother had died. I feel like I have come to accept LBD and am gathering knowledge to better fight the next chapter. We have a long way to go, but we will do it together.

My body has lacked any endurance. After I gave my talk, I was pretty much zonked for the day. Today we went to early church followed by a nice breakfast. Once again, I came home just looking for my pillow. I don’t know what is going on. Bob of all people feels that I need more sleep each night. (That’s kind of amusing coming from the guy who is playing on his computer to the wee morning hours.) Anyway, I can always benefit from beauty sleep, so I will be hitting the hay much earlier this week to see if that helps.

It’s a blustery day. The wind is blowing lawn chairs throughout the neighborhood. I think I just saw a neighbor’s dog blow by the window. It was in the 70’s today and should only get to the 30’s tomorrow. That’s plain nuts. When a front goes through or the wind is blowing, it starts my Mighty Three into action. That led me into taking a nasty fall in our family room, hitting my elbow. Our rug caught my empty head, so no major damage was done to anything besides my pride. I don’t like this wobbly feeling and I like even less when it strikes hard. My padding protects me and Bob helps bounce me to a vertical position. It’s just a normal day in our home.

That was our weekend. We’re a barrel of laughs over here, but we both know things could be much worse. The northeast is still drying out and trying to make new homes from the damage. We can’t complain. Life is good,

God Uses This Blog to Prove That Life is Good

       More people know about Lewy. We will keep spreading the news.

I Love My Bed

My fabulous daughter has gently unfolded to become a fabulous mother and wife. She has created a home and family unit bursting with Christian love and values. I applaud her actions. She has some Martha Stewart in her that did not come from me. Her color-coded organization just blows my mind. My organization style is more of a “just throw it on the family room table” style. We live in the home that people love to visit because it makes them feel better about their own limited housekeeping skills.

Anyway, for November, she made a construction paper tree that hangs on the pantry door. Each day, she asks her two preschoolers to look around them and tell her something for which they are thankful. Some of the more heart-warming answers include books, windows and bugs. She writes the word and they draw a picture.

This new tradition helps imprint the real definition of Thanksgiving on all who enter her home. It’s an activity that would benefit most of us and help center our minds on our many blessings. In the last post, I briefly wrote of two people who bring joy and thanksgiving to our home. Jill and Cyndi – you are the best!

I probably should write my thanks of all of my family members. I am blessed to have a loving daughter who visibly only shakes her head in disbelief at me on an infrequent basis. Her husband and children are fabulous and always willing to help. I love that family in a manner that only grandmas are able. I have to also note my husband who provides me with support and unconditional love. Life is good.

Instead of singling out people, I wanted to look at life from a different angle. The newest thanksgiving is the disappearance of all of those political advertisements from the mail, phone and television. Hallelujah! Those are done!

My focus on this blog will be to think of more precise thanks. I’m challenging myself to think of honest answers. For example, my thanks for today go to my bed. I love my bed. We have this huge California twin bed that has Temperpedic mattresses and remotes that allow adjustments of the head and foot. When my back is hurting, I can readjust my position multiple times throughout the night without getting out of bed. My head is up when my allergies make lousy bedfellows. This allows Bob to get a reprieve from those awful coughs that would otherwise be heard in Sacramento as soon I would be horizontal. I’m between flat and up when I read my books.

When I decipher my reasons, I notice that my bed gives me comfort and a reprieve from my aches and pains. It helps my back and head by creating unique shapes that support my frame. It also brings comfort to my soul. I can be transported away in my books and dreams. My fish tank in our room allows me to meditate and become fixated on my breathing. It truly allows me to be pampered. What a wonderful way to end each day. Life of Lewy and The Mighty Three (migraines, vertigo and tinnitus) can be better ignored if at least for a short time. Yes, life is good.

God Uses This Blog to Show Me that Life is Good

        I stop my frantic brain and examine my life. Checking for the small stuff brings smiles my way. Life is good.